Agreeing when I don’t mean it
When I do this I am not thinking. I don’t mean I am not thinking clearly or I am confused. I mean other than an actual rush going through my body and a sinking feeling that is the only thing that happens to me. It’s like I am jammed up and I just can’t say no when I want to. That is what a client told me have you ever felt this way? It is what anxiety is. Most people try to think their way out of this. Since my client noticed he wasn’t thinking at all the next thing he wanted to do was make a decision. It seems like the logical thing to do. But that is where some of the worst choices are made.
Sometimes your feelings and/or physical reactions are so strong that if you try to push through them or ignore them it will make you sick, acid reflux, ulcers, insomnia to name a few. When you reach this level you need to know that it was a gradual build up over time. It didn’t happen overnight and your body is talking to you. It’s talking and you’re not listening!
When you get a strong physical sensation, stop and observe it. The longer you look at it the quicker it will dissipate. By noticing it you will intensify it but then I promise you it will diminish. Breathe through it and wait. (this too shall pass). When it is over ask yourself what caused it when did it start? Whatever the answer is your body is yelling no! Look at it. I know some times no is not an option but your body is saying it needs a change in direction. This is not “I don’t want to go out tonight” it means “I don’t want to go out with you.” The body is not concerned with being politically correct.
This is valuable uncensored information. When your body reacts like that it is coming from your core and it is a warning. Sometimes it is hard to figure out what it is saying and you may need some help to figure it out it may not be the most obvious thing. It could be a domino effect and you need to trace it back to the beginning. Other times you know exactly what it is saying and you mean need an action plan
Sometimes we place ourselves in positions where we thought it would be different and then we feel obligated to stay because we made a decision to stay. That is not being flexible sometimes changing direction is the wisest thing to do. When I look at my parents I look at people who waited for a gold watch and a pension when they retired. Having that as an option can be wonderful or stagnating. In our times there aren’t any gold watches left. You need to be flexible and to do that you need to tap into your intuition as well as your thoughts. We need to be in touch with ourselves to make the best choices. Our body is more than a vehicle it is an information center. Have you been paying attention?
When you get some quiet time evaluate it. I know it may mean some drastic changes. You could go on and soldier through but you will hurt yourself. You betta check yo’self befo you wreck yo’self
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