It became an ethical question that I had to answer.  My lover just came out of the dorm.  I was 18 and my first lover was coming out of the dorm.  He didn’t see me but I saw him.  And I remembered how over the weekend he handed me a shirt and said “you left this.”  I threw it back in his face and said “I didn’t! “  I then walked down the highway and hitched a ride back to campus in a state of shock.  You see the shirt wasn’t mine, it belonged...

I am getting married in three weeks.  And this has been an unexpected roller coaster.  I thought I would have it all together.  I am 55 years old and I don’t remember the last time I blushed. I have happily lived with my fiancé for 7 years.  We know like and love each other so what possible surprises could there be? Plenty!! Suddenly I am looking at the apartment and deciding what needs to go…. I meant change.  I find that now that it is...

We do not value our families as much as we value prestige and money.  In other words the opinion of others is more important than asking ourselves what we want  When a woman starts thinking about having children, Sheryl Sandberg said, “she doesn’t raise her hand anymore … She starts leaning back.”  So how bad would laid back be?  It sounds like a criticism to think about children. That by not raising our hand we are doing something wrong! What...

When I was younger and competing to get into schools and then competing to stay in them I thought there would be a moment when I had arrived when It happened. I wasn’t quite certain what it was but what it would mean is that everything would become effortless. I think you see the handwriting on the wall faster than I did. When I proved myself I had just thrown myself in a bigger pond and the cycle began again. But what happens over time is that...

When I do this I am not thinking.  I don’t mean I am not thinking clearly or I am confused.  I mean other than an actual rush going through my body and a sinking feeling that is the only thing that happens to me. It’s like I am jammed up and I just can’t say no when I want to.  That is what a client told me have you ever felt this way?  It is what anxiety is.  Most people try to think their way out of this. Since my client noticed he wasn’t...