We place ourselves on hold until we do something wonderful.  We do it because we are chasing life instead of living it. Until that happens we are living on potential and living as if we were constantly operating on default.  I will be enough when I make enough money, when I have a relationship when I am in school etc. When I was younger I calmed my anxiety down by assuring myself that I had potential and one day someday the world would know...

It’s that time when people think of romance.  I was on the bus yesterday and a woman said Valentine’s Day is coming up we women better stick together and I thought that was sad.  I speak to many men and women who have a hard time finding a relationship.  It doesn’t matter if their a man or a women the mistake is always the same.  I will give you a hint the answer is is in the title.  If you are a...

Having it all is a useless idea frantic enthusiasm and over-hyping who you are is the new way of being.  I am annoyed at websites promising to give you your every heart’s desire.  No one has figured out how to do that and the hubris that goes into that promise is ridiculous. Sit emptor caveat. You cannot have it all because you will always think of something new to add to the list.  All is not a finite number in this case...

There has always been a debate of which comes first having an emotion or a thought. Which one happens first? I vote for the feeling. If I am walking home late at night and I sense someone is coming up behind me very quickly my heart goes double time and I feel startled out of whatever thoughts I had and a little apprehensive (I live in NYC).  Then a thought comes up like why are they increasing speed and all that? That’s the beginning...

The Winter Solstice is liminal space, between darkness and light. After a cycle into darkness, we reach the shortest day of the year.  The Sun makes its return, as the days get longer.  It is an ending and a beginning… it is an opportunity to begin to set into motion what you’d like in your life in the coming year.  So every year (sort of) I do my New Year’s Resolutions. I don’t actually...