There has always been a debate of which comes first having an emotion or a thought. Which one happens first? I vote for the feeling. If I am walking home late at night and I sense someone is coming up behind me very quickly my heart goes double time and I feel startled out of whatever thoughts I had and a little apprehensive (I live in NYC).  Then a thought comes up like why are they increasing speed and all that? That’s the beginning...

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What job would give you goose bumps in the morning?  In your mind’s eye what is something that you are willing to go to hell and back for?  It is that thing that you dismiss as unpractical. That thing that would give you purpose and joy! What thing creates a longing that sometimes hurts when you think of it? That one – that crazy stupid red carpet dream Remember this is your dream and no one else. Don’t try to justify...

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For many it becomes a lifestyle.  I recently sat with a client who insisted her ability to have a social life and be a professional in her field was completely reliant on looking like she had it all together.  The fake it till you make “syndrome.”  But the problem with that is after a while you feel like an imposter, because deep down you are waiting to get caught.  You are waiting for the world to notice that you aren’t who you say are. So,...

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In the last days of summer sit back and breathe. Even better have some fun.  We all push ourselves and often people don’t realize that the pressure is breaking them down. This breakdown is often shown through anxiety and depression.  Anxiety is often expressed by tremendous worry over what hasn’t been done.  Depression is looking at what has been accomplished and not feeling satisfied or able to complete what needs to be one. Americans work...

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We live in a society that doesn’t tolerate fear, anger or uncertainty very well. And it is supported by our language! People want to be rock stars, masters of the universe and goddesses. With so much expectation I am surprised I roll out of bed in the morning. I have clients that tell me they are depressed or anxious or they need anger management. We use these terms off handedly without realizing the impact of what we are saying. What if you...

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A lot of us stop ourselves with that phrase. It is a moment of grand regret where we say if only and we let whatever it was slip away because we have chosen not to see an alternative. It is our get out of jail card free. So let me throw an enticing question at you. What if you took complete responsibility for your life? What do you think might happen? Responsibility is accepting the consequence of every action and inaction in the world. I can...

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