There is an epidemic in this country and it is ruining lives.It causes depression, anxiety and loneliness. It’s your phone. That obsessive item that never leaves your hand and more importantly your mind. But there is a way out of the nightmare. First let’s check if your one of the undead. You see them everywhere bent over their phones. They appear in fetal position in the subways, they crash into you on the sidewalk and into each other. They...

  A lot of people believe that when other people react they caused it. That some people have the kinds of personality that you can predict how the room will react. Or they look for patterns to support this idea. One thing that I find frustrating is when people come into therapy to ask what is it about them that makes people react the way that they do. Not to burst any bubbles here but most people are thinking about themselves and I have...

Many people experience depression during the winter but does it have to be like this? There are certain steps that we can take to beat off the winter blues. Some that come to mind are things that you do physically like getting rest, exercise and eating right.   It is also important, even if you don’t want to go out in the cold to be social. Though I prefer movies, music a good book! Some people even sit under sun lamps. But you know all of this...

We live in a society that doesn’t tolerate fear, anger or uncertainty very well. And it is supported by our language! People want to be rock stars, masters of the universe and goddesses. With so much expectation I am surprised I roll out of bed in the morning. I have clients that tell me they are depressed or anxious or they need anger management. We use these terms off handedly without realizing the impact of what we are saying. What if you...

“then you shouldn’t talk, said the Hatter.” ― Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland Part II The other side is when you’re thinking clearly. It’s when you can take any situation and come up with several options to deal with it. If you can do that you are being flexible in your thinking and creative. We often trip ourselves up because we decide there’s only one way to do something or only one perspective. When you are stuck in being...